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The Vicious Circle of ‘Fat’ vs ‘Thin’

By November 20, 2014 DIY & Lifestyle

Recently, I’ve seen a lot of articles online which have really spurred people on about the whole fat vs thin battle. The whole ‘real’ women thing has really come to my attention, and I wanted to write about it. For me, it’s quite an important subject to talk about because I am… ‘thin’, so it makes sense for me to voice my opinions here…

fat vs thin debate

I think I can finally say that I am fed up of this ‘vicious circle’ (as I like to call it). I’m fed up of brands and people saying that you are a real woman if you have curves and ‘junk in all the right places’. I am fed up of people judging people on their size. In fact, when I was still at school (home schooled now if you didn’t know), I was in a PSHCE – Personal, Social and Health Education – lesson, the teacher was talking about this very topic. I’ve never actually told anyone this before, but I came to tears because I know exactly how it feels to be ‘thin’. I’m not saying I have been bullied (definitely not), but I’ve been judged.

During a rehearsal at the same school, I went into the toilets to get changed and a few girls from the year above were in there with me… but they didn’t know I was there, because I was hidden by just a simple door. They were trying on their costume and one of them said (I quote this exactly), “Ergh, this jacket is ridiculous, it would fit an anorexic person… like Tolly.” This was followed by a bundle of giggles and can you imagine how I felt? Little Year 7 Tolly standing in the toilets wondering what on earth to do? I waited until they had departed, walked back into the assembly hall and said that I was fine when people asked if I was okay as I sat quietly looking upset. Like I said before, I have never been bullied, but when something like that happens when you’re young, it hurts. I remember thinking about it for weeks, regretting that I didn’t just step out the door and shut them up.

fat vs thin debate

I’ve grown to realise that I am who I am though, and I know in my heart that I am genetically thin due to high metabolism, and not due to an eating disorder. One of the other reasons I’m writing this is due to Becca’s post, where she told a similar story. Just because somebody is thin, or thinner than the average, doesn’t mean they are ill, or don’t eat as much as everyone else. I eat the same as many people my age… at school I would probably eat more than most but the school still insisted that I was checked up on by a dinner lady. I know it was for good intentions, just to check nothing was wrong, but once again I was left feeling embarrassed and went home crying when they started doing it. I just want to clarify again, I was super happy at this school, it’s just the little jives and pokes that get you down.

The real point is, just because somebody is thin, doesn’t mean they’re perfect, and it doesn’t mean they’re ill either. Just because somebody is curvy, doesn’t mean they are real, and it doesn’t mean they are ill also. Why do people have to label us for being slightly bigger, or smaller than everyone else? Why do brands think it is okay to make campaigns made up by ‘real women’ (who are usually curvier than the usual model)? It’s not okay. We always go on about the fact that models in the media are a bad influence on young people, yet when we say that these curvier models are more real, we seem to think it’s okay? If we always say that everyone is different, then why do we go one sided? If I had seen an advert which said something about real women being curvy when the changing room incident happened, do you think that would have made me feel any better?

To add to this all, I thought that I would mention a photoshoot that VOGUE published online recently. I applaud them for it. They didn’t have to say much yet they made a huge statement. There was not one mention of being a real woman, it was simply a photoshoot about how to find pretty underwear for curvier women… yet it said an awful lot. I hope that one day these pictures will become normal to us all, and that cuvry and thin women (or men) will grace the covers of magazines, and strut down catwalks better than ever before.

No matter how thin or curvy you are, you are a real woman. If somebody could just say that to everyone, that would be great. I’m so grateful to be around the right people at the right time to be able to realise that I am who I am, and that makes me me. We forget that some girls don’t have that, some girls and women cave under pressure and end up in a bad situation, so we need these influences to be good ones, we need this vicious circle to change into a straight even line. Thin or curvy, you are real. 

WHAT I WORE: Jumper (Monki) // Shorts (Kenzo) // Floral Crown (ASOS) // Boots (Dr Martens) // Sunglasses (Topshop)

Lots of Love… Tolly Dolly Posh xx

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